I know I haven't been active for a long time, and I haven't reported about my current situation, it's just that I really don't feel -right now- like soaking DA with my drama.
so, like, I come today to show you something.....
it's something that a friend of my... posted on her tumbrl account.
here is the link in case you have an account there and want to reblog it: panur.tumblr.com/post/66932990…
and here is what the post says:
I have never made an ‘awareness’ post before in my life, so I’m hoping I won’t blotch it. I don’t watch TV at all, mostly lurk around the internet, but today my sister came over to show me this video and I wanted to share this little bit of my country with anyone who might be out there.
“Flor de la V” is an Actress I have known for years as a fan, someone I have always found to be profoundly likable and charming for several reasons, not least of all being sassy, fun-loving characters. She’s one of the ‘known faces’ in TV, having been in several of the soaps produced in the last ten years, having worked in many theaters for shows and having her own commentary show successfully running for some time now.
Why am I telling you about Flor’s life? I’m telling you because in my country –and probably in yours too- it’s all too common to have programs dedicated only to discuss and diss (mostly diss) on the current known faces of the ‘farandula’ (more or less a way of referring to the group that composes the ‘famous folk’). And today she was grossly, unnecessarily, painfully discussed in one as such.
I have unfortunately been unable to find an actual video of this particular part of the show and my memory has become fuzzy by now, but I can tell you it was awful. They referred to her as a man in several instances, used slurs (‘puto’, which can loosely be the ‘Argentinean slang’ equivalent to ‘fag’) and laughing recalled over her personal life and sex -for you to get the idea, the tape ends with the hosts of the show remarking that circumstances of her private life that she is going through now have to do with competing with her husband over ‘who has it bigger’. I don’t think I need to clarify to you they are talking about.
Now I’m really bad at recalling the exact term for what Flor is (cis/transgendered/transsexual/whatever) -and I could Google it and tell you what it is- but that’s now what I want to discuss here. Flor de la V identifies herself as a woman and that should be enough for everyone- but that’s not what this note is about.
This is getting longer than I wanted it to be, but what I really want to talk about- what I really want to share with all of you is her answer to the show- this video she made in her program. It’s about 9 minutes long and in Spanish, but I want to translate the contents for everyone because the things she said really touched me, and I think these are things more people should listen and understand.
The note starts with her describing an afternoon with her family, how she turned on the Tv to spend some time relaxing, only to find herself being discussed in this note. Her reactions to it, and the shock and pain she felt at understanding what it was about… And then, at about 4:30 of the video, recalling on the fact she found herself sobbing alone in her room, she says this (please bear with my translations):
“I don’t think it would be pleasant for anyone that to have your genitals or your sexuality discussed in TV, and have it exposed to crudely in prime time. All this pained me profoundly, which made these tears fall nonstop from my eyes. The problem is that they didn’t give the situation the debate it deserved.”
“They are talking about a person here, not about a thing, you know? Viviana-” she said, addressing one of the two hosts of the show where she was discussed “-I don’t know what kind of society you want to leave for your daughter Martina, But it clearly is not the one I want for my children. I want another kind of country, [Argentina] is a Global example of many things in regards of human rights- with the law for [same sex] marriage because of the gender identity law.” -in my country, by law as of May 2012, you can have your ID changed to match your selected name and gender-"But actually, in this country, equality does not exist yet. You know something? A great part of my life I felt shame, I never said it- I felt shame of myself, of going to a bank and showing my ID, shame of speaking and have my voice be heard. I felt shame of my condition.”
“And you know what? One day I looked at myself in the mirror- looked at myself in the mirror and said to myself: “Ashamed of what? Ashamed of what? Of being different? Of thinking different? Of loving? And I said- Never again: I will never again feel that.” There is a small part addressing the government which I don’t want to include since it might cloud or distract from the following message, which is what I want to remark about this statement she made:
“I don’t want any man, woman, teenager or child to feel the way I felt. As communicators in the media we have a duty, if one person is refer to by another in a discriminating way- I, in my show would say ‘Stop. Stop’. My name is Florencia Trinidad, mother of Paul and Isabela Goycochea, Mrs. Doctor Pablo Alejandro Goycochea, woman and Argentinean.”
Nationalism aside, this is a very strong message and video, and I just wanted to spread this, since I think her words are worth reading and thinking about. If they can help someone out there to feel even a little better about themselves, realize they can be stronger than what they think, or even -hopefully- make someone aware of just how damaging words can be, then I’ll be glad.
link to the video on youtube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQHUwW…
please, share it... if it's okay with you....